Can your husband be your best friend, too-is it possible? How to have a happy healthy relationship and marriage.
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Respect is the key!
My husband, Tom, really is my best friend. We spend most of our time together--only when he's working are we usually apart, and even then, a lot of the times I go with him and help in whatever way I can.
From the day we met, over 20 years ago now, we have been friends. We have never had a major argument, never once have we raised our voices to each other in anger. I respect him, and he respects me--it's simple as that, I guess...
I married a wonderful man, as close to perfect as you can get, so maybe that's why it's easy to be best friends with him. But--I believe if everyone could give their spouses a chance, and treat them with the respect they give their other friends, then they could have the happiness, too, that we have found.
They say marriage is work--I guess that's true, in a way, but for us, it hasn't seemed like work. I love to see his face light up when I fix his favorite dinner, just for him, and every little thing he does for me--even if it's just making sure he always thanks me for the littlest thing(like fixing his favorite dinner, lol), makes me thankful that I live with my best friend...
Respect is so easy to give, and so wonderful to receive from the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I hope there are others who feel the same way we do....
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Grins.....don't I know you? :)
TamCor and TomCor -- could it really be?
How sweet. Tam, welcome to the hub! If Tom is really this best friend you're raving about, we can see why you're so fond of him. He's a pretty swell guy. Congrats to both of you on setting an example for the rest of us! MM
Mine is mine as well. Been best friends for over a quarter century now!
GalNGuy--Thanks! So glad to hear from another happy couple. 15 years? It'll just fly by, believe me!
Tom--Grins back...after 20+ years--I think you do, lol!!!! ~~~hugs~~~
Mighty Mom--Yes, it really could be,haha! You wouldn't believe how many times we've gotten teased about our names, especially since Tom's real name is TOMMY...shhhh, don't tell anyone, okay?lol
And thanks for your sweet comments--he really is the silly, prolific, serious, corny guy you see in his hubs!!!
Silver Freak--I love it--25 years, that's wonderful, and I'm so happy to hear of someone else who's made it that long!
Whenever someone saay they could never marry a friend, I wonder 'why not'? Why would anyone agree to spend the rest of their life with a person who *isn't* a friend? Love lasts, lust doesn't (well, not the initial 'throw me down now!' lust). Great hub on how to stay happily married!
Tom? A wonderful man? Um okay, if you say so! LOL I know he is despite his twisted hubs! :D
Respect has to be a two way street. I'm glad you both treat each other that way, its heartwarming.
JamaGenee--Thanks--Tom and I kinda did it backwards...we fell in love first, THEN became friends, lol...We were engaged two weeks after we met, then married six weeks after that, somewhere in that time we realized how much we really "liked" each other, also, haha.
Cris A--Yeah, he really is!!:) And how did you know his nickname was Twisted Tom?????? Personally, I adore all of his twists...and turns...and well, you get my drift!
Randy Behavior--You're absolutely right--respect is a two way street, and it really isn't that hard to do. Thanks for your nice remarks!
Very nice Love Story. We are not even half way, but I hope we'll be there as well and someday I hope we also have a wonderful story to share.
Thank you Charia...when you're happy, the time just flies by--I can't believe that's we've been together over 20 years already...
Your a very lucky lady. In response to your question - I think your hubby should be your best friend, cos he is the closest person to your heart.
Lady_E--I am very lucky, and thankful to have him in my life. And you're right--he is the closest person to my heart!
God I am so lucky to have parents that are one in 6 billion. I love you guys.
Awww, thanks Dustin--you know we love you, too...:)
Awww, it's a sweet picture and you two are too. thanks
Thank you ralwus, that's really nice of you to say...oh, and welcome back!
Great Hub! My husband and I will celebrate 13 years this July! We work for the same company and he is the biggest supporter of my writing. I wouldn't trade my relationship with him for anything. He is wonderful. I am glad to know there are other couples out there that share such a wonderful bond.
To have a beautiful relationship out of respect is a blessing indeed. I think we should have that in all of our relationships. Thanks for sharing. You give us much hope :-)
Lucey--Thank you! I'm so glad, also, that you and your husband feel the same way we do--there is no better feeling!
ripplemaker--Thanks--believe me, before we met, both of us had just about given up hope of finding happiness, so we do feel blessed!
I'm in love with and I'm married to my best friend, my wife...as well.
MPM--I'm so glad to hear that--I'm sure your wife feels the same way!
I loved this. I met my husband when I was 17, and knew I would marry him one day. It took a long time and a few reallllly bad relationships before we found our way back to each other. We have been blissfully married for 10 years now. It IS work, but enjoyable. It all depends on how you look at. Fixing his favorite meal doesnt need to be a chore, it can be the best part of the day when you know he will be thankful. I am so happy to see someone else who gets that! Thank you for sharing.
dennisematt--Thank you so much for sharing your story, too--I am so glad that I wrote this hub, because it's given me the opportunity to hear the stories of so many others, like yourself, who feel as my husband and I do.
Personally, we don't know too many couples in our family, or anywhere else, who seem to share the kind of bond we do, so hearing from all of you has been really uplifting!
you folks are doing the right thing, it's wonderful to c 2 people in love, i'm big time happy for u...and hopeful as a result...I would feel wise 2 follow your example....
peace
Thank you John! I hope that you find the happiness that we have--you sound like a great guy!
How sweet is this! I like reading positivity :) It looks like you've found a relationship truly based on unconditional love, not conditional love, and I think that makes all the difference. You know you're lucky when everything you do for each other isn't perceived as work, but is solely based on the love you share. I know how this feels, and it's wonderful!
I read an article once that found that unconditional love relationships are rare...they called them "swans." :)
M. Rose--Thank you so much for your wonderful comments! I agree--our marriage hasn't been work at all...it really can be so very easy when you totally love the person you're with...
That's so ironic about the swans--I didn't know that, but I have a pic of two swans together as my desktop photo!!lol
Hi TamCor,
It will be 39 years for us this October! And yes, my husband is my best friend. We have gone through good times and bad and helped with each other's families. I would not trade him in for anything!
So very nice to know that your marriage is also based on a great friendship. It is the best kind!
Peggy--39 years...that is just wonderful--congratulations!
I'm sitting here, watching my husband working at his computer, and realizing--again--how very lucky I am. And, it's so nice, for me, also, to know that you understand how I feel! :)
Very nice hub Tamcor. I happen to be in love with my best friend. Funny thing about our relationship is we split up 20 years ago and went seperate ways. We found each other a year ago and have been inseperable since. We kid around sometimes and I tell her I'm Forest Gump to her Jenny. It's good to be in love with your best friend.
Thank you livewithrichard! I'm so glad you found your "Jenny" again--lol--I love that! :)
I love this.My huband and I have been married 28yrs and going strong..so far.
Thank you itakins! We're closing in on 21 years at the end of this month ourselves...glad to meet another couple who's been happily married for so long! :)
That's a beautiful hub.... I truly wish more marriages were like this. The divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
mroricle--Thank you! I agree--and it really isn't that hard to make a marriage work, if two people really want it to!
Great hub! I'm lucky to be married to my best friend, also.
Thank you habee--That's terrific to hear...I wish we all felt that way, don't you?
My husband is my best friend to and for that I am so thankful, I agree with you to many just give up when they should really do what it takes to keep there best friend. :)
Wow Ma! You and Dad are super popular. :)
Dara is my best (and only few) friend as well! Even after all those years apart, our bond is as strong as ever. It's the strength of friendship that weathered the stormy distance. ^_^
AEvans(Julianna)--Somehow I completely forgot to thank you for your comment, geez. I agree--fight for what you have--it's really not that hard to stay happy, when you both give it your all.:)
Aw, Tony, how did I miss this comment? I'm so glad that you have found happiness with Dara, and I hope it gets stronger and stronger as the years go by...just remember that respect part, okay??? :)
GaLNGuy Abvisor 3 years ago
We're Out here!! Congratulations on being in Love with your best friend!!! I hope to say the same in 15 years!!!